Thursday, December 30, 2010

Dating Dilemma - Letting Him Down

I suppose that it was bound to happen eventually. A nice, fun guy is finally really into me, and I am not that into him.

I've gone out three times with B, and he really is a cool guy and I do enjoy being around him. With that said, I'm just not feeling the chemistry. Date #1 was conversation over drinks, then we headed over to karaoke. We even did a suicide round where he picked a song for me and I picked one for him. So enjoyable, but not really into him.

Date #2 was watching movies and TV at his place. It was nice enough, bantering over the finer points of South Park and catching the discrepancies in Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom. Unfortunately, there was no spark on my end. He leaned in for a kiss, and wow...nothing.

Since he is such a cool guy, I wanted to try one last time. Date #3 we went out for dinner, walked around the mall for a bit while dinner digested, then went to see a movie. Once again, it was all quite pleasant. However (and this is a BIG however), at one point during the movie, I had kinda zoned out and just seeing him next to me thought that it was a male relative. The fact is, he reminds me of one of my relatives a bit too much. Kissing him at the end of the night was a bit uncomfortable, but I don't think he picked up on it.

I don't really enjoy being on either side of the "dumping" (though it's not really dumping since we aren't in a relationship). I've been hurt when guys have ended things, and I certainly don't want to add to the number of wounded hearts in this world. At this point, I'm not sure how to end things in a kind and caring manner. I don't want to lead him on at all, and I know he wasn't looking for new friends.

Sigh. Does dating ever get easier?

Your favorite dating disaster,



  1. Never. Dating NEVER gets easier. Two years ago I went out with a guy who leered at me during the entire lunch, and would say nothing. I practically had to pry words out of his mouth. Then, when he did speak, everything was so morbid and depressing - I wanted to stab myself with my fork. :P

  2. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawn! I knew this was over b4 your first date. Nexxxxxxxxxxxxxxt! If a guy asks you to coffee for your first date run the F away. It's an interview, not romance. Don't let the plankton drag you down!

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  4. You're still dating this guy and madly in lust now. WTF!?!?! So funny. Your dating life is my entertainment. Keep it up sista! :) When I'm good and ready to date again I'll return the favor. Seriously, really, I'm glad you are happy with this one.